Can’t you see it? There it is again. The discontentment, the judgmental attitude the inability and/or unwillingness to see people as God sees them.
The “tag” I use when I sign my name or advertise if, “Relationships are the Always the Bridge to Healing.” You see, you can be the best at what you do for a living, you can be the person always in service, you can attend church and AA Meeting every week, but when you get home, your relationships are a wreak. Your marriage or relationship with your significant other is at best strained, distant and dysfunctional, your relationship with your children or your parents is also not what you hoped for and although you see yourself as being a good friend, lasting friendships are hard to maintain.
In the book, He Is Just Not That into You, the writer does a good job of portraying just what I am talking about. The charters are beautiful women who are very successful at what they do for a living and they have some pretty good relationships with each other, at work anyway. But, when they get home , and have to interact openly, honestly, and transparently, disregarding their beliefs and assumptions about what the other person is thinking and doing, well that’s where they fall apart.
In the Mental Health field we use this analogy to help our clients see the need for personal change and growth. “At home is where the rubber hits the road.” That’s the gage we use to see if we need to take a personal look at ourselves and areas we need to make changes in.
Accepting that we are the only person we can change holds the magic of healthy relationships, and creates the peace, joy and relationship we all were created to enjoy.
You see God models healthy relationships; His word is the road map. If you find that the wounds of your past are interfering with your ability to live in the relationships you desire, get back on board, reassess your recovery program and/or seek professional help, it is worth every minute you invest in yourself.
“Relationships are Always the Bridge to Healing”